The Two Voices That Shape Every Choice You Make

Every day, we all have a conversation going on in our heads – a stream of thoughts that shapes how we feel, act and show up in the world. At the heart of this conversation are two voices: what I like to call the “Inner Critic” and the “Inner Coach.” The critic tends to echo fear, while the coach offers truth. The one you choose to listen to will help to shape your future.

The inner critic is like an old friend, reminding you of past experiences, your upbringing, and setbacks. It might seem like it’s trying to protect you, but it’s mostly driven by fear. On the flip side, the inner coach is all about vision and possibility. By shifting your attention from the critic to the coach, you can build confidence, gain clarity, and make decisions with intention.

Strategies

Identify the Voice in the Moment

When a limiting thought appears, ask: “Would I say this to someone I love?” If not, it’s your critic. The coach speaks with encouragement, not shame. Just becoming aware of the tone starts to shift your inner atmosphere.

Give the Critic a Character

Picture your critic as a cartoon or outdated persona – maybe a grumpy headteacher or a tired office manager. This helps you detach and see it as a programmed voice, not a truth-teller.

Activate Your Inner Coach

Ask yourself: “What would my best self say right now?” The inner coach uses language of possibility, curiosity and action. Write down three power phrases your coach might use – and start using them in real time.

Use a Pattern Interrupt

When your critic spirals into “What if I fail?”, interrupt it with a phrase like “That’s an old story – I’m writing a new one.” This stops the emotional loop and creates space for a new thought.

Train Through Repetition

Just like going to the gym, you don’t change your mindset with one session. You do it with practice. Journaling, voice notes, affirmations – these are your mindset reps. Repetition builds resilience.

Check Your Inner Ratio

As the day concludes, take a moment to reflect: “Which voice did I heed more today, my inner critic or my inner coach?” This is not about passing judgment, but rather cultivating awareness. Keep a record of this balance, and with time, aim to shift the scales in favour of your inner coach.

Tune Into Energy, Not Just Words

The critic may weigh you down, but the coach lifts you up with a sense of freedom and possibility. When you’re unsure which voice is speaking, tune into the emotions it stirs within you. Feel possibility? It’s a sign that you’re on the right path, aligned and in harmony with your true potential.

Create A Mindset Handover

When you catch your inner critic trying to take charge, just think: “I appreciate your input, but I’ve got this. I’ll take it from here.” Then invite your inner coach to step up and guide the way. You’re learning to steer your own inner journey.

Conclusion

Think of your inner critic as an old tape (remember those?), you just can’t seem to give up, while your inner coach is like your future self, creating an exciting new playlist. Personal growth is all about swapping out those tracks of doubt for melodies full of potential. It’s not about getting rid of the critic; it’s about choosing who gets the spotlight. I promise you, this choice can truly transform the outcomes you are aiming for.

Ponderings

• When does your inner critic speak the loudest?
• What does your inner coach sound like, and how often do you hear it?
• What would change if you trusted your inner coach more often?
• Whose voice have you internalised that no longer belongs in your mind?

Resources

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